By Mabel Iam

I have always affirmed that nobody has educated us on how to love. Religions across the ages, without a doubt, have had some say in the matter, yet the conflicts, divorces, and problems seem to increase more and more each day. There is no doctrine on how to love, only a handful of experts who study the processes of relationships, love and sex.

When we raise the subject of love as a model to be learned, the questions are endless: Can one learn to love? Are we capable of loving more than one person? How many relationships should we explore and know before deciding which will be “the one?” Can we really love someone all of our lives? Are there universal ideas regarding love or does everything depend upon the culture in which we were raised?
Do we generally only place value on learning things that can bring us money or prestige? How many times have we taken passion for love? I could go on and on asking questions. This book could become a dictionary of questions. Let us each begin to think about creating a school for love that will unify all human beings from anywhere on the planet.

Among the many answers I have found, I believe that love is the most beautiful and simple art in life. Love, like any art, is learned. In fact, the desire to efficiently and consciously solidify a relationship is an act of maturity. This process, when carried out by both members of the relationship, is splendid and very gratifying for the couple, on the material, emotional, mental and spiritual levels. If we wish to learn how to love, we must proceed in the same way as we would in learning how to master anything else.

Love benefits every level of our existence. It nurtures and sustains every act and situation that we go through in our lives. Thanks to this, it is life’s central theme and the primary area on which we have to focus our energies. Yes, whether we want to admit it or not, all of us will fall in love at some point in our lives, and we may feel lost while navigating this wondrous art of love because for this, the most interesting of all human activities, there is no school.
Every relationship that we undertake in life helps us grow, be it through painful or pleasant experiences. Not all relationships work out, but all exist and pass through our lives for some special purpose. Every time we need to learn something, we attract people who will help us find the answers. Only that one specific experience or that one particular relationship holds the key to teaching us the true answer.

Our relationships act as a mirror of our inner. That is why we have to take the following motto into account: “That which I love in others is me. That which I reject in others is also me.”
We have the power to accept, modify and grow from any virtue or defect we come across in ourselves. We can also carry out this same process in relationships, to deepen our love and trust for both ourselves and our significant other.

The thing which bonds us to another person is based on thoughts, beliefs, judgments, and emotions. If we have a negative experience with someone and don’t forgive them, we relate negatively to that person and remain negatively bound to our own emotions and thoughts. Later we may find that we end up repeating the same experience with somebody else.
If we remember the example of the mirror, we can change our view of the world and our own relationships. We can apply the law of attraction to find that special person who will correspond perfectly with our own feelings and thoughts. We assume responsibility for our relationships and therefore we control the destiny of each one.

Once we have clarity on what we want for ourselves, we can relate to others in a unique, stable, harmonious and magnificent way. But everything depends on our inner reality, which consists of our emotions, desires and thoughts. Because thoughts are creative, they create everything around us, especially those things that they focus on and comprehend. Sometimes it happens consciously, but in most cases, it is an unconscious process. If we want to change our world and our relationships, we must simply begin by changing our own thoughts.

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